So last week my mother and I attacked the “office”. A room on my third floor that hadn’t been used in a year and that had essentially been converted into storage. Over the course of two days (with many interruptions by children) we got a large portion of the room cleared and usable again. That was the pile of donations I posted. We also made a significant trash pile as well. Who knew I still had bank statements and credit card bills from 2000? No more.

The room isn’t fully clean though. A good half of the room is still filled with my husband’s things. Books, paper, clothing, mementos, and one of the largest sources of contention between us – the music. He has approximately 2000 vinyl records and roughly 600 CDs. More than is humanly possible to listen to in a lifetime. He has been outrageously hesitant to let any of it go, and I have tried to be understanding – really I have! I get it, vinyl is cool. Music is cool. But there is a limit to how much we can have in our house. A couple of years ago for his birthday I bought him an iPod, and my mother bought him a turntable (because he hasn’t had one to listen to those 2000 records in about 10 years) that connects to a computer to convert the music to MP3. We figured if he could still have the music, but let go of the stuff that everyone would be happy. Currently that 80G iPod has about 70 songs on it. The turntable was just unpacked and hooked up this past weekend. Clearly our plan backfired.

So after our two day dive into the depths of the office, my mother and stepfather came back this past Sunday to help us some more. The three of us sat down with my husband and had a heart to heart about the stuff. He agreed it was too much and slowly began weeding out some of those 600 CDs. At one point I needed to go find some benzos I was simply too overwhelmed by the scale of the project and the snail-paced progress. But at the end of the day I had another pile for charity pickup and another mountain of garbage.

I’m hoping that the trend can continue this coming weekend, but I am concerned about the slow pace. If we are going to move this summer, then the house would have to be cleaned out and ready to list on the market by spring. It’s a tight schedule. Too tight. I am worried that we will miss the window and wind up here for another year, because I would much prefer not to make the kids switch schools mid-year. Having to stay wouldn’t be worst thing ever, but the time has come for us to move on. Just remind me to refill the Ativan before I head back up to the office okay?

By cleaning out the office.

This was the donation pile. On December 31st for the tax deduction naturally!

I’ve  just been busy with life. A plumbing problem gone awry. Oink flu. Kid’s birthdays. Holidays. Depression. Yeah.

I really need to get back on track. It is nearly Christmas and my three children will be gifted new toys and books and other things that will get scattered throughout the house and drive me batshit.

I haven’t given up though. Not completely. A few weeks ago my husband and I cleaned out the living room toybox and sorted the toys in the boy’s room. An entire bag of miscellaneous crap, some broken or missing parts for the garbage and two bags of toys for donation. Today those donation bags, along with some baby paraphernalia and clothes got put out on the porch to be carted away by VVA. It felt amazing and freeing.

But there is a bigger issue looming. Christmas is but a week before the end of the year and there are big plans in the works for 2010 in the Lazarus household… We are moving. Back to the city from which we came and out of the exurbs. Woah, right?

A move on this scale is epic. City living requires one to act as sardines, and with a husband, children and a cat – clutter has no place. We will have to downsize by approximately 80%. From a three story house with four bedrooms, plus a basement, attic, and outdoor storage – it is a massive undertaking. The house will need to be listed for sale by spring, so the time line is tight.

So far I am not panicking. Let’s see how long it lasts.

I haven’t disappeared or given up already. I’ve been busy with a plumbing issue (Yay! Leaks!) and been away visiting family and friends. The decluttering will take a marked upswing when we have to clean out the dining room to replace the ceiling.

In the bin is a doll bed. Something that my husband and I have fought over many times. It once belonged to his mother, maybe his grandmother, maybe an aunt. Some little girl put her dolls to sleep in it and tucked them in. But then it was put away in his grandmother’s expansive attic and forgotten about. When she died and the house was cleaned out the bed was found and it was salvaged and brought to our new home.

Where it has sat in a corner of the basement for the past six years collecting dust and spiders and rusting. Because yes, this doll bed is made of metal. With pointy slats for a headboard and rope for a box spring. It is sharp and rusty and painted with what has to lead paint. Peeling lead paint.

I’m never going to let my kids play with this thing. I’m never going to fix it up, or ebay it, or anything else. It has to go. My husband agreed that it was time, and let go of the notion that holding onto it was holding onto his grandmother. So it’s out there by the alley waiting for the garbagemen to come and take it to the dump across the river.

I struggle with letting things go because I struggle with waste and environmental concerns; but in the end it doesn’t serve me well to hold onto things simply so they will not go to a landfill. It only moves the landfill to my house. So garbage day, today I am learning not to see you as my enemy, but as a tool for making my life the way I want it to be. Let’s hope the lesson sticks.

Tally count: 1

I think my biggest reason for wanting to blog my journey out of (and here I have to say it, even though the word freaks me out)… hoarding… is that no matter how much I want to do it, I can’t. Not alone at least. I lack the required impetus. I lack self-discipline. I lack an attention span. But

I do however have an attention-seeking dramatic side, and putting it all out there is a good way for me to meet that need. And in the process I find myself more motivated to meet my own goals. Happy circle completed.

I’ve discovered that one of the best ways to keep myself excited about cleaning (which is boring) is to keep a tally of how much crap I get rid of. When I was pregnant with my youngest, and nesting for months on end, I kept track and found that I had thrown away, recycled, donated, returned to its original owner, or otherwise rid my house of several thousand items. It was freeing. And a little nauseating. No matter what though, it was concrete evidence that I was making progress – even if the room I was working in didn’t always look like it.

So the rules are simple. If I get rid of it, by any means, and it is never coming back (so lending doesn’t count) it counts as one.

A bra? 1.
A sofa? 1.
A Happy Meal toy? 1.

Big or small, good condition or utter crap, it’s all the same. One. The only exception I make is paper. I can’t bring myself to count every slip of paper I dump, so my rule of thumb is units. Each box for the recycling truck, each full bin from the shredder, they all count as one. It’s just easier that way.

So here marks my first entry to the tally. Three. I spent two hours today cleaning out the living room corner and it’s mountain of bills, junk mailings and school flyers. I feel better already. I also think I damaged the shredder…

Oh gee. Another blog.

I’ve had this idea swirling about in my brain for awhile now. A new blog.  Specifically for a cleaning project I’m gearing up for. I don’t want to blog about my life, or my kids, or my day to day butthurt. I have a blog for that already. I want to clear out my house and clean up my life and I want to talk about it. I think it will help me because I need some accountability – because yo, cleaning is hard.

So imagine with me now; you have a house full of stuff. Lots and lots and lots of stuff. You like things. Your husband is a packrat, possibly a hoarder. Your three kids are going to become packrats. The Stuff is taking over. Stuff is breeding with other Stuff and the house is having Stuff Babies. It’s the only logical explanation.

Okay, not really. But you know what I’m talking about.

It’s out of control. I intend to take it back.

There will be something here. I promise.